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Posts tagged movies
I present here for you some comments in response to my viewing of the film which highlights the stressful and frantic process of various NYC families and their attempts to get their children into the “right” preschool/nursery school. That being said, I remind readers that I am well aware that the purpose of a film is to evoke an emotional response and that we, the viewers, have no way of knowing what ended up on the cutting room floor. So we watch, we react, we reflect and we press on.
So of course once I heard about the video “Nursery University” I wanted to see what it was all about. So we put it in the Netflix cue, and then found out I could do it instantly on the computer and then with the ankle injury etc. I found myself needing to “sit still and rest” so I figured I’d watch it on the computer with a free download and see what the fuss was all about.
I was ready for the worst. Barf bucket was at the ready. But I need to tell you something, and maybe it’s because I’ve been following this stuff for so long, I didn’t see anything in the movie that surprised me. I am not saying ANY of it is right, I’m just saying none of it was “news” to me. Many years ago when this “we need to get into the right nursery school” nonsense first came to my attention, I read (I think in the NY Times; but, full disclosure, it was a long time ago!) about a mother in NYC whose daughter didn’t get in to the “right” preschool and she ended up being quoted as saying something like, “Well, her educational career is ruined. We might as well just move to the suburbs.” During workshops I pointed out that while yes, it was sad that the mom said that, it was, to me, even sadder that she actually believed it.
So what were my reactions to the film?
First off, it bothered me immensely when the director of Epiphany School was talking to prospective parents and she (incorrectly) defined and misrepresented a “progressive” education as children getting to do whatever they want and whenever they want it, and went on to also say that, “You don’t show up on your first day at Goldman Sachs expecting to get to do whatever you want!” In response to that statement Tom’s input was this: yeah, but a strong, “good” progressive school will create folks who own the company, not the worker bees in it! Granted she might be pumping out rich and wealthy worker bees, but ultimately not the creative problem solvers that ultimately we need in our culture! (Good point Mr. Murphy!)
Secondly, I am not in any way implying that any of these “elite” schools are “bad.” I just didn’t see a lot of parental investigation or inquiry as to what the schools were really offering. What they were doing other than making parents feel like if their kid goes there they will somehow automatically be set up to feed into the Ivies? A couple of the administrative teams were presented in a way that highlighted their balance and perspective. Specifically the admin team at Mandell, the co-op highlighted at the end and the school (I forget the name) where the director said that all her teachers have that “twinkle” in their eyes because they love teaching so much. I appreciate the film presenting a few administrators and parents as having some sense of balance and perspective, however it still concerns me that we didn’t see one parent ask about the style or philosophy of any of the schools. There was an implication (at the least the film was cut to make it appear this way) that quality of program could be assumed based on name alone.
It upset me that Golinkoff and Hirsh-Passek were only given a 15 second sound-bite (as the voices of reason) in the beginning of the movie as they are serious researchers and could provide more of the cognitive data that some parents need when it comes to the importance of a play-based early childhood experiences. I would have liked them to be a more active part in the film presenting both support (at times) and counter points too.
It disturbed me when that one mother kept saying, “We were rejected” from such-and-such and “rejected” from so-and-so, when she was not in actuality “rejected” from anywhere. Not being picked in a lottery is not being “rejected.”
In jest I wondered if maybe we are all in the wrong job. And what we should really do is move en masse to NYC, set up shop as “admissions advisors,” and charge frantic parents $4,000 for seven “navigation” and “strategy” meetings. Tom said it would be blood money. Fair enough, but it did cross my mind.
It concerned me that in the beginning of the movie when “pre-school” was defined with the “pre” part meaning pre-paring, not “pre” as in before. I think that set the tone for me. I realized that the whole film was going to be based on a definition of preschool as “pre-paring” and because, as a viewer, I would not have the opportunity to solicit her definition of what such preparing should entail, (or challenge one that might have been offered but cut or edited out of the movie) I was frustrated from the get-go and reminded of the importance of semantics, making sure we are all on the same page with the definitions of the lingo and buzz-words we throw around and, (what have I told all of you before???) he who owns the language owns the debate!
I wondered out loud if there really are no other preschool/nursery school choices for the families in the NYC area. And if so, why isn’t someone going in and making a fortune by opening programs to serve these supposed thousands of children who have no place to go and parents who have money to spend? Or is it that “certain schools” are the ones that all are vying for and even if there were schools with openings elsewhere, there would still be a mad race to get in to the “good” (read: status boosting and prestigious) ones? Which continues to prove that a lot of this madness is about status; and not necessarily quality of the program. I was left with many unanswered questions!
And to wrap it up, when it was all said and done, the scene that bothered me the most and shook me to my core was when Juliana’s parents (upper east side) were filling out all of the applications and the dad read the question out loud, “What qualities do you think characterize a good educational program?” and his response was, “So what do we write?” Could it be that they jump through these hoops, go insane with craziness, compete with each other, subject their kids to endless interviews and tests, and spend literally thousands of dollars and yet, not even know what they want?
© Lisa Murphy, Ooey Gooey, Inc.